When sitting down to write this article, all I could think about was writing a letter to a friend. A friend who is tired, worn out and feels at the end of themselves. Or perhaps a friend who has their make-up on and is smiling brilliantly but falling apart on the inside.
Every Friday, I join an inspiring group of writers to write for FIVE MINUTES on a one-word prompt. No editing. No revising. Just WRITE. This week, the word was AGREE. // indicates the start and stop of the timer.
Hi there friends, how has your January been? Maybe you are organised, ready, full of vision and excitement for the New Year or perhaps you are still settling in. At the close of 2017 I had to do some serious heart work in order to face this coming year. A lot of those changes haven't been easy, but I must be honest and say that I am already reaping the benefits. Based on the process I put myself through, I have put together few tips on how to approach your year in terms of living well.
Beginnings and endings have always been important to me. I am a big fan of finished chapters and fresh starts. But I must admit, I found myself experiencing nothing but anxiety as last year came to a close. I could feel the pressure to set goals, be “ready” as well as excited and motivated. But I wasn’t. I realised that, I actually needed to rest and allow my body time to recover, my mind time be still and my spirit time to settle in and just be content in my being. In light of my these needs I decided that I would allow myself the first week of January to get ready.
When I hear the word “trust”, I cannot help but think about relationships. Trust is both the necessary bridge for building relationships and the glue that keeps them together during periods of pressure, strain or disappointment. Looking at my life I have learned that there is something integral about the journey toward living well and the need for trustworthy friends who help you get there.
Sometimes at the end of a long hard journey we can compliment the adventurer who undertook it and say “you did well” or when someone passes away after a difficult illness we say they “shame, they did so well”. I once did a mountain climb that I was convinced was going to kill me! At the end of the climb, people said to me, “you did so well!”. But, upon reflection I know that what they meant was, “You made it”.
What takes life from being something that is happening to you, to something you are living well? I propose it is the sense that you are using all the raw materials you have been given in order to create something, something that will long outlast you and your time on this earth.
Whatever you do don’t tell… If you do that I’ll tell everyone… I’m going to tell on you… You can’t tell them that or they’ll…
I cannot tell you how may times in my life I have heard these chilling sentences and I hate to admit how many years I allowed myself to be bound in guilt, fear and condemnation because I was afraid to 'tell'.